Storm Damage: Angry Words Can Sink a Relationship
Even though partners may forgive each other after a heated argument, the hurtful words that were hurled can be haunting nonetheless.
In a Good Relationship, Your Problems Aren't Yours Alone
By Ellen Wachtel - In couples therapy, if we can help each partner be a better therapist for the other, all three of us can feel more helpful and effective. My favorite way is to start by using a particular exercise to provide a window into each partner’s psyche.
Becoming a Therapist for Each Other: How to Deepen Couples Therapy
How to address one partner’s long-term issues in couples therapy without derailing work on the current relationship.
How to Accomplish Something in Every Session
By Ellen Wachtel - Doing couples therapy isn’t easy. But often there are implicit positives in statements in which the main point is anger, disappointment, and hurt. With practice, therapists can learn to pick up on the strengths that are embedded in painful emotions.