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Are You a "Permaparent"?

Your Adult Child Just Moved Back Home. But Is It Normal?

Martha Straus • 10/14/2016 • No Comments

By Martha Straus - Today, about 25 million young adults between between 18 and 34 are currently residing with their parents. In its basic form, this story holds that most emerging adults still living at home are wretched, entitled, or manipulative. But the new bungee family offers emerging adults---and our fragmented social fabric---a healing alternative, one that's injecting the best social capital available into the human mix.

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Attempting Connection with the Resistant Client

Can You Help a Client Want to Change?

David Johnson • 3/26/2014 • No Comments

In my several decades of practice, one skill that’s served me well in this field is my ability to leave work at the office. But every once in a while, I see clients whose situation intrigues, moves, or confounds me in a way that keeps them in my thoughts in between sessions.

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Bringing the Mind-Body Connection to Dharamsala

Helping Teenage Tibetan Refugees Find a Path to Peace

James Gordon • 12/31/2013 • 1 Comment

Recently, I was invited to Dharamsala by the Men Tsee Khang Institute, a school of traditional Tibetan medicine sponsored by the Dalai Lama, to give a talk on the scientific basis of the mind-body connection and the techniques of self-care and mutual help that my colleagues and I at The Center for Mind-Body Medicine are using with war- and disaster-traumatized populations.

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Can Childhood Trauma Lead to Adult Obesity?

How One Study Exposed the Connection Between Early Life Abuse and Weight Gain

Mary Sykes Wylie • 9/24/2015 • No Comments

During the mid-1980s, Vincent Felitti, founder of Kaiser Permanente's Department of Preventive Medicine, began directing a new obesity-treatment program. But within a year or two, Felitti and his colleagues began having a very unusual problem. Virtually none of the patients were fat as children. They'd gained their weight abruptly, usually in response to a difficult life event. But the shocking news was that the interviews revealed an unsettling pattern of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, family suicides, brutality, and other evidence of severely dysfunctional family relationships.

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Getting Unhooked

Optimizing Connection with Teenage Clients by Understanding Your Own Attachment Style

Martha Straus • 2/9/2016 • No Comments

For a child to develop, adults need to “loan” them their adult regulatory system. But being a self-aware, engaged, and compassionate therapist isn't automatic. To play our part, we must first foster our own capacity to self-regulate before we can demand it of a terrified or furious teen. Attachment is a two-way street: it’s not just about them.

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Growing Up In an Age of Distraction

Is There a Crisis of Pseudo-Connection in Today’s Families?

Rich Simon • 9/14/2014 • 5 Comments

Has the time come to consider the whether modern families lack some of the intimate connections they used to have? And, if so, what can we as therapists do about it?

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Helping Couples in Therapy Explore Childhood Wounds

A Therapist Restores Connection to Partners on the Brink of Divorce

Silvina Irwin • 10/9/2015 • 1 Comment

It’s my first session with Jeff and Miranda, and the room is thick with silence. “Honestly, I don’t know why I’m here,” Miranda spits out. “He's cheated on me since we started dating 25 years ago." Jeff shares his story of basically raising himself, since his father walked out on the family when Jeff was 2. Miranda tells of growing up in a violent home with a father whose rage had turned on her mother, and a mother who’d turned it right back on her daughter. Soon I understand that I sit before two people who’ve been deeply wounded from childhood. Can I avoid doing further damage to their precarious relationship? Do I tell Miranda to run for the hills? What if Miranda takes a leap of faith and decides to trust Jeff once more—and he betrays her yet again?

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Helping Parents Guide their Child's Moral Development

Nurturing Children's Capacity for Empathy, Kindness, and Emotional Connection

Lawrence Cohen • 3/9/2016 • No Comments

By Lawrence Cohen - Though you may have to dig for examples, most children have some capacity for empathy, cooperation, and kindness. A great deal of parental worry comes from not realizing that the aspects of a healthy conscience develop unevenly and that the road to morality is slow and bumpy. Many children understand what’s right, but can’t muster the self-regulation to do it. Here are some specific scenarios to help parents mirror their children in a playful manner, offer knowledge, and understand them without judgment or shame.

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How Conversation Sparks Therapeutic Change

The Search for the Unspoken Self

Ron Taffel • 7/6/2014 • 1 Comment

When we trust ourselves to follow the signals of life that the patient emits in seemingly casual conversation, we increase our chances of stepping outside the confines of our theoretical models to enjoy an unexpected encounter.

 

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How the Internet is Changing the Way We Create Connection

Steering the Way We Form Relationships in the Digital Age

Melinda Blau • 9/23/2015 • No Comments

The Internet has become the world's largest, and arguably most important, social thoroughfare. It intersects with millions---no, billions---of streets, alleyways, and self-contained villages where you can find, meet, and work with just about anyone on the planet. The problem is, many of us feel slightly out of synch, even as we commit increasing stretches of our time to the Internet.

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