The Behavior Patterns That Kill Romance, and How to Beat Them
Susan Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and a presenter at the 2019 Networker Symposium
, has devoted her career to demonstrating that it’s not an oxymoron to speak of the "science of love." Listen as she explains how attachment science can help couples discover a pathway to optimal lovemaking.
The Strength of a Relationship Depends on How Partners Respond to This One Question
By Susan Johnson - Marriages are primarily about the emotional responsiveness that we call love; about fundamental human attachment. The empirically supported model of therapy I've developed allows us to understand what happens at key moments of change and make these moments happen. This means that we can not only heal relationships: we can create relationships that heal.
Sue Johnson on Discovering Hidden Moments of Connection
By Sue Johnson - If you’re going to help a couple get closer and learn to really dance together, whether in bed or anywhere else, the key is helping partners experience bonding moments that open them to becoming emotionally accessible to each other. If you can do that, their bodies will follow, and sex will almost always improve.
How to Help Couples Have "Hold Me Tight" Conversations
Susan Johnson, couples therapist and author of Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
, will be a keynote speaker at this year's Networker Symposium
. Here, she talks about how creating emotionally valuable experiences in therapy helps keep struggling couples engaged and better able to see their partner's point of view, and communicate better outside of therapy and in the bedroom.
Susan Johnson on What Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Can Tell Us
Susan Johnson, the inventor of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), bases her work on the fundamental understanding that teaching communication skills to couples in conflict is like trying to teach the whirlwind how to blow more gently. That's why EFCT is based on the new science of bonding, clarifying people's attachment needs and helping them understand how they trigger each other's deepest fears, then helping them move into interactions where they can more safely bond with each other.
Moving Past the Fear of Losing Clients is Necessary to be an Effective Couples Therapist
For the couple dropping out of therapy without having faced basic issues in their relationship, the stakes are much higher—more potentially damaging—than losing clients is for me.
Coming to Terms with Inflicting Emotional Pain in Order to Provide Good Couples Therapy
We don’t become therapists to inflict emotional pain, but eventually we learn that sadness, anger, shock, and disillusionment can be part and parcel of therapy with couples in serious trouble. Good couples therapy sometimes hurts.
When Couples Issues Hit Close to Home, Moving Forward Means Putting Aside the Fear of Confrontation
We frequently need to confront our clients, and putting aside a fear of confrontation—not to mention a fear of losing clients—means that we must risk the possibility of one partner, or perhaps both, becoming openly angry with us.
Susan Johnson on Why Labeling Clients’ Emotions Isn’t Enough
Emotions can be tricky—once they enter the consulting room, it’s easy for both therapists and clients to become stuck in, overwhelmed by, and embattled with strong emotions.
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