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Dying as a Rite of Passage

There's a Gap Between How We Hope to Die and How We Really Do

Katy Butler

By Katy Butler - There’s a gap nowadays between how we hope to die, and how we really do. More than three-quarters of Americans hope to die at home like their ancestors, but more than two-thirds die in hospitals, nursing homes, and other institutions. It doesn’t have to be this way. There’s a pathway to a peaceful, empowered death, even in an era of high-technology medicine.

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Approaching Alzheimer's Proactively

What Therapists Can Do to Lessen Its Impact

Robert Hill

By Robert Hill - Since our population is aging, memory decline is something older clients are increasingly bringing to therapists. We have to help these clients understand that memory is like any other bodily ability: it shows the signs of natural aging. And while no pill can restore memory to its youthful proficiency, people actually have more control over memory loss than they think.

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A Late-Life Lesson in Love

A Special Feature from Our Family Matters Department

Jeanne Folks

By Jeanne Folks - It's difficult to describe my shock as my mother opens the front door and ushers me into the house of my youth. She's aged-shrunken, with poorly dyed blond hair and the familiar rigidity in her hands and body. Her once beautifully straight teeth are crooked, and one tooth is missing. It's been eight years since my last visit.

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Facing a Parent's Decline

Helping Grown Children and Aging Parents Learn to Nurture Each Other

Marian Sandmaier

By Marian Sandmaier - Nearly all therapists will soon be working with substantial numbers of aging families, whether or not they ever consciously choose to. The question at hand, then, is how can this juncture in the family life cycle be transformed from an emphasis on adjusting to loss and disappointments to a focus on growth and possibility?

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Three Myths About Old Age

...And What We Can Learn from Our Older Peers About Aging Successfully

Jay Lebow

By Jay Lebow - By examining how older members of our society actually live and looking at what we can learn from people who age successfully, one study shifts the focus away from the deficits experienced in aging to the factors that permit individuals to function effectively, both physically and mentally, well into old age.

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What Does a Son Owe a Mother?

A squeeze of the Hand

Barry Jacobs

By Barry Jacobs - For 58 years, from my birth until her death, my mother and I clashed over money and material values, cents and sensibilities. She may have felt entitled to a grand lifestyle, but I felt entitled to a less solipsistic mother—one who relished, not hated, my help. Years later, I found myself able to relax and just be her adult son in a way I’d never experienced.

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The Case for the Older Therapist

Five Therapeutic Lessons That Only Come with Age and Practice

Walter Lowe

By Walter Lowe - Time and practice, practice, practice count as much or more than formal instruction in becoming an expert at therapy or just about anything else—medicine, law, carpentry, fire-fighting, or violin-playing. The longer you've been at it, the more deeply knowledgeable and skilled at the work you're likely to be.

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An Awareness of the Soul

What Does It Mean to Really Get in Touch with Yourself?

Michael Ventura

By Michael Ventura - When I was 5 years old, I experienced something that made me feel viscerally, mentally, emotionally, and inescapably connected to everything and everyone around me, while feeling what I can only describe as a sense of privacy so deep and unassailable that "loneliness" doesn't begin to describe it. Thirty-five years later, I felt it again.

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Creating a Support System for the Caregiver

Confronting an Unprecedented Challenge of Old Age

Terry Hargrave

By Terry Hargrave - In many respects, extended old age represents a vast triumph for modern medical science. Forty or fifty years ago, people who became seriously ill in their sixties and seventies usually didn't live very long. On the other hand, it means that long after most of us have received our AARP card, we'll be caring for our aging parents, on the front line of caregivers for frail, elderly parents.

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5 Strategies for Forging Healthy Relationships with Others (and Yourself)

How to Make Connections for a Truly Happy Life after 50

Andrea Brandt

By Andrea Brandt - In this third part of a three-part series adapted from the upcoming book Mindful Aging: Embracing Your Life after 50 to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Joy, author and clinician Andrea Brandt looks at how a more intentional relationship with ourselves can lead to more satisfying relationships with others.

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