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Stealthy Change, Healthy Change
Three Ways to Practice PresenceDuring my internship after graduate school, I worked as therapist at an intensive out-patient eating disorder (ED) clinic. One of the patients, Amber, was a... Read more
“You Should Know What I Need”
A Simple Exercise to Help Couples Avoid the Assumption TrapSatisfying our needs is a gift our partners give us. Being responsible calls for a willingness to ask clearly and vulnerably for what we want, and to tolerate... Read more
VIDEO: Susan Johnson on Restoring the Spark
Finding Your "Secure Base"Couples therapist Susan Johnson explains how, by establishing a "secure base," to restore both an emotional and physical spark in a relationship. Read more
The Wonder of an Unexpected Alliance
A Therapist's Surprise Connection with Her ClientBy Christina Emanuel - Ryan’s reputation arrived before he did: brilliant, oppositional, angry, a general pain in the butt, and autistic. Over the years, he... Read more
VIDEO: The Power of Predictability
The Cornerstone of a Strong Therapeutic AllianceProviding familiarity and predictability is one of our greatest tools in therapy, and can provide much-needed comfort to clients who aren't used to it... Read more
Addressing Vicarious Trauma
Five Clinicians Weigh InA new client who survived a harrowing car crash is going through a deep depression. When she recounts her story, her therapist feels unusually affected, as if... Read more
Community Matters
New Possibilities for Mental HealthA passionate advocate for mental health in underserved communities confronts the question, “Why don’t more black people go to treatment, and why don’t... Read more
The pace of our daily schedules can make it hard to look up from our appointment apps and ponder the bigger picture: Why are we doing this thing called... Read more
In Search of New Ideas
My Evolution as a TherapistA therapist reflects on a key lesson from his long career: clients don’t necessarily need new answers to their questions—they need new questions. Read more
Our Calling
A Wounded Healer’s JourneyAs therapists, our job is to do our best for our clients. But even our best efforts can’t always ensure that therapy will help, or even that we don’t do... Read more
Saving My Younger Self - January/February 2020
A Therapist Finds Her MissionAn urban school psychologist discovers the power of her own story of childhood trauma to inspire the kids she serves. Read more
The Sabbatical
Discovering My Self on a Car LotAfter an unusual break from practice, a burnt-out young clinician learns to finally feel at home in the therapist’s chair. Read more
To Reveal or Not to Reveal
When the Therapist Has a Serious IllnessEach therapist who becomes seriously ill faces a weighty choice between silence and disclosure with clients. Read more
Meet You in McGinnis Meadows
Lessons in AttunementWhat horsemanship can teach us about making sure our clients feel seen, heard, and helped. Read more
Couples Therapy Goes Public
A New TV Series Pulls Back the CurtainA bold new TV series captures the raw reality of couples therapy—for both clients and therapists. Read more
Seeing Children through a Polyvagal Lens
A Different Approach to Challenging BehaviorsPolyvagal Theory widens the perspective on managing kids’ challenging behaviors. Read more
The Therapist as Traffic Cop
Learning the Hard Way with a Volatile CoupleBeing a good traffic cop can mean the difference between success or failure as a couples therapist.* Commentary by Peter Fraenkel Read more
Out of Sight
Are Prisons Modern-Day Asylums?Author Kenneth Paul Rosenberg explores the catastrophic inadequacies of our mental healthcare system that have led to “the greatest social crisis of our... Read more
Hold My Hand
Calming the Little Girl Inside MeA recently divorced mother learns to confront a lifelong fear on her own. Read more
VIDEO: The Self-Compassion Approach to Trauma Treatment
Creative Strategies That Dig DeeperIt’s important to honor all of your client’s inner parts in therapy. But accessing them to fully engage in healing work isn’t always easy. Here, trauma... Read more
My Nightmare Client, My Greatest Gift
Sometimes Our "Worst" Clients Are Our Best TeachersMy young client, Brian, can reduce even confident mid-life adults to an infantile puddle, one provocative comment at a time. He's a therapist's nightmare... Read more
VIDEO: Richard Schwartz on Healing Our Wounded Inner Parts
The Originator of IFS on Helping Clients Awaken Self-HealingInternal Family Systems (IFS) has allowed therapists to awaken the capacity for deep self-healing within even their most troubled clients. In this video clip... Read more
How Do I Bring Up My Client’s Rigid Perfectionism?
Five Clinicians Weigh InA client sees his perfectionism as an advantage, even though it ramps up his anxiety, exacerbates his sense of shame, and keeps him living a very rigid life... Read more
VIDEO: Jack Kornfield on True Healing
Creating an Invitation for ConnectionIn this clip from his Networker Symposium keynote address, Jack Kornfield shares how to embody a fuller spiritual wisdom in your work with clients to heal... Read more
VIDEO: Gabor Maté on Expanding Our Vision for Mental Health Care
Treating a Social MalaiseAccording to physician and author Gabor Maté, too many healthcare professionals take a biological, individualized approach to treating mental health issues... Read more
VIDEO: Handling Microaggressions in Therapy
An Eight-Step Process for Talking About It With Your ClientsLet's say your client lets a microaggression slip during a session. Do you bring it up? Therapist and author Anatasia Kim shares her eight-step process for... Read more
Therapist Peer Groups, the "Emotional Lifeboat"
Doing Self-Care by Yourself Isn't Always EnoughIn the sea of trauma that surrounds us in our daily lives and in our offices, self-care is a life jacket. But collective trauma needs a collective... Read more
VIDEO: The Building Blocks of Healthy Relationships
Stephen Porges Explains What Connection Actually Looks LikeStephen Porges, originator of the Polyvagal Theory, transformed the way we understand the underlying mechanisms of traumatic response and how safety, caring... Read more
VIDEO: Jon Kabat-Zinn on the Radical Gesture of Mindfulness
What It Means to Really Practice MeditationWhen he introduced Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction to the West, Jon Kabat-Zinn transformed the way we regard the Self, and the psychological ailments that... Read more
Addressing the Idea of Meds with a Depressed Client
Five Clinicians Weigh InSandra has been struggling with depression for many years. A psychiatrist has prescribed her an antidepressant, but she’s told her therapist she doesn’t... Read more