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Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering LoveThis month’s free practice tool is from David Kessler and offers clients a way to accept losses and express the unexpressed. Read more
Saving No-Fault Divorce
What's at Stake for Women in Abusive Marriages?The current political push to eliminate no-fault divorce is dangerous, particularly for women in abusive relationships. Read more
Facing Post-Separation Abuse
Sometimes the Breakup Isn't the EndPost-separation abuse can easily masquerade as a simple "bad breakup." Read more
Living with Narcissistic Abuse
How to Heal When Leaving Isn’t an OptionMaintaining a sense of well-being with a narcissist requires clarity, clear expectations, and self-compassion. Read more
When Your Client Goes to Family Court
The Truth about Documenting SessionsHow you document sessions with clients in emotionally abusive relationships can either help or harm them in family court. Read more
When Burnout Threatens Therapy with Survivors
Cultivating Your Stamina as a TherapistEven experienced clinicians can start to feel lost when helping people untangle the psychological effects of coercive control. Read more
Male Abuse Survivors
Bringing a Fuller Picture of Suffering to LightWhy aren't we doing more to support male survivors of intimate partner violence? Read more
Soothing Dysregulation in Couples Therapy
The One Thing We Should All Do FirstIs teaching partners to join forces against their stress where all couples work should begin? Read more
Grandma Chin's Funeral
Reflections on Grief and BelongingA bicultural daughter of immigrants struggles to make sense of her identity as she mourns a grandmother she barely knew. Read more
Assessing the Physical Dangers of Emotional Abuse
When to Create a Safety PlanJust because a relationship isn't physically violent doesn't mean emotional abuse won't turn violent. Read more
Julia Louis-Dreyfus Is My New Therapist
The Podcast That Changed MeIn 'Wiser Than Me,' Julia Louis-Dreyfus's podcast, accomplished older women generate a free-floating sense of shared sisterhood—like an all-girls slumber... Read more
Healing the Covert Narcissist
When Early Trauma Meets EntitlementEntitlement, the characteristic that best indicates when coercive control is narcissistically driven, makes treating perpetrators challenging—but not... Read more
When Your Client Prefers Chitchat
Finding Meaning in Unlikely PlacesIf a client can't stop talking about the plot twists of a banal TV show, should you try to change the clinical channel? Read more
Parenting with a Coercive Controller
Repairing Attachment When Children Get WeaponizedThe arrival of children in a coercively controlling relationship adds a complicated abuse accelerant. Read more
The Neurofeedback Question
100-Year-Old Miracle or Runaway Train?Many people who've tried neurofeedback say it's the closest thing therapy has to a silver bullet. So why aren't more therapists using it? Read more
Shaping Consensual Nonmonogamy Agreements
The Five Steps Therapists Need to ConsiderWhen opening a relationship, the agreement-making process is far more important than the agreements themselves. Read more
The Anxious Therapist
Harnessing Your Discomfort in SessionsWe can use our discomfort with clients to learn how to help them. Read more
Editor's Note: November/December 2024
Facing the Realities of Emotional AbuseThe more informed we are about narcissistic abuse and coercive control, the more we can support survivors of intimate partner violence on their road to healing. Read more
Black Women and Intimate Partner Violence
When Seeking Help Isn’t SafeSeeking protection from a violent relationship is difficult enough on its own, but for Black women, the problem is compounded many times over. Read more
Terry Real Responds to Trump’s Reelection
Facing the Reality of Patriarchal DominanceThe Founder of Relational Life therapy Terry Real offers his reflections on how to make sense of Trump's reelection, and what we can do to promote an... Read more
Beliefs and Misbeliefs
Countering the Illusion of Explanatory DepthUnderstanding what's at the root of dangerous misbeliefs like conspiracy theories is the key to countering them. Read more
Therapist Self-Care During Tense Times
Five Ways to Tend to OurselvesAs we approach the upcoming election, I write to you as one who feels, as many of you do, the tension around what’s at stake. As the bearers and... Read more
Showing Your Clients You Care
Can Therapists Be Affectionate Without Crossing Boundaries?We wouldn’t be good therapists if we didn’t care about our clients. But beyond a warm greeting and an offering of effective clinical strategies, how do we... Read more
The Art of Detaching from Results
How We Measure Our Competence MattersFor therapists, doing something they love that challenges them—independent of their work with clients—can bring balance to their practice. Read more
Reframing Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Have We Overlooked the Gifts of OCD?Rather than a pure focus on relieving symptoms, researchers and clinicians would benefit from exploring the rich inner life of the OCD sufferer and its hidden... Read more
"The Piece of Supervisor Advice I Still Use"
Four Exceptional Suggestions for Today’s TherapistsIt’s no surprise that a supervisory relationship can often be enlightening and steadying for both new and experienced therapists. But some therapists have... Read more
Therapists Are Superheroes
Seven Ways We Go Above and BeyondTherapists may not don red capes, or travel faster than a speeding bullet, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t superheroes in our own right. We occupy a... Read more
Discarding the Binary
Talking Sex and Gender with My Ever-Changing ChildHis generation of kids almost had to be gender- and sexuality-questioning to be cool, right? Maybe he was just mirroring what was happening around him. Read more
The Video Game Therapist
A Creative Approach to the Male Friendship CrisisMaking friends isn’t easy. But amid unprecedented levels of anxiety, depression, and trauma, and in the middle of what the Department of Health and Human... Read more
"I Just Want Your Advice!"
Four Top Responses to a Common Client PleaDo your therapy clients ask you for advice? We asked 5 top therapists what they do when clients say, “Just tell me what to do!” Read more