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Listening for Zebras
A mother learns to trust her animal instinctsSometimes, raising a child is less an act of love than something much wilder. Read more
Turning "I Can't" into "I Will"
How to Motivate Depressed ClientsGetting a depressed client mobilized to take the initial steps toward change can be the key to treatment. Read more
A Different Kind of Presence
Bringing Body-Centered Experience into Your WorkTherapy can too easily become reduced to two talking heads, spinning out tales. But treatment can be intensified and enlivened by tapping into our immediate... Read more
Beyond Viagra
Why the Promise of Cure Far Exceeds the RealityDespite all the hoopla, the dropout rate for Viagra exceeds 40 percent. A case explores the aspects of middle-aged sexuality that no drug can address. Read more
Enlightenment Reframed
When East Meets West in the Consulting RoomUntil recently, our understanding of "enlightenment" has been shrouded in spiritual hero worship. But we're beginning to see it as a thoroughly natural... Read more
The Larger Self
Discovering the Core Within Our MultiplicityThe practice of therapy, for both therapist and client, is transformed when we connect with our fundamental core, a process that involves learning to listen... Read more
Adult Time for Adult Crime
Have We Lost Faith in Rehabilitating Juvenile Offenders?For the past 20 years, the American criminal justice system has dealt with juvenile offenders in a way it never did before: by treating them like adults who... Read more
On Being Sane in Insane Places
Retracing David Ronsenhan's Journeyin 1972, David Rosenhan shook the foundations of psychiatry with a classic experiment that stunningly demonstrated how the world is always warped by the lens... Read more
Beyond Acceptance
It's Never Too Late to Open Your HeartA woman who wants to learn a new way to be with her mother teaches her therapist what it means to step out of his own comfort zone. Read more
Addictions Treatment: Myth vs Reality
Effective Interventions Often Don't Match StereotypesTwo recent landmark overviews of research separate myth from reality in the treatment of substance abuse. Read more
Encountering the Shadow
Face to Face with the Seduction of ViolenceWhen your day-to-day life keeps immersing you in the most burtal side of the human experience, you must learn what it means to resist. Read more
Breaking the Spell
A Good Boy Learns to Become a ManA man who grew up rescuing the women around him learns that there's no saving someone from sorrow. Sometimes the best we can do—all we can do—is offer a... Read more
Acts of Compulsion
Unmasking the Allure of the IllicitIf therapy is in some sense a confrontation in which you must come face-to-face with your disowned self, it's a real advantage to choose a therapist who's your... Read more
Flying Lessons
Discovering Another Way of BeingIn a single, unforeseen moment, a self-lacerating young woman takes a risk and discovers, deep in her bones, why we're alive. Read more
Confronting Subtle Racism in Therapy
A Social Justice Perspective on LanguageIs it appropriate to bring up the use of subtly racist language in a session, even if it doesn’t deal with the client’s presenting issue? Always, says one... Read more
The Limits of Talk
Bessel Van der Kolk Wants to Transform the Treatment of TraumaFor more than 20 years, Bessel van der Kolk has been in the forefront of research in the psychobiology of trauma and in the quest for more effective... Read more
The Beethoven Factor
The People Who Thrive in the Face of Extreme Adversity May Surprise YouThrivers are not Pollyannas. They are not blindly optimistic and are far from showing the often irritating feigned cheerfulness that can result from trying to... Read more
The Hidden Logic of Anxiety
Look for the Emotional Truth behind the SymptomIn our rush to remove the symptoms of anxiety, we too often ignore the client's hidden system of personal meaning. Focusing on that murky inner world can both... Read more
Constructing The Third Reality
How to move from conflict to coexistenceThe Family Dialogue Project grew out of my attempt to help therapists, abuse survivors, and their families caught in the meshes of terrible conflicts from... Read more
The End of Innocence
Reconsidering Our Concepts of VictimhoodIn our treatment of survivors over the past two decades, the therapeutic pendulum has swung from complete denial to an overfocus on the wounded inner child... Read more
4 Types of Reconciliation
Coming Together after Falling ApartEveryone's reconciliation story is different, but everyone can reconcile in one of four ways. Read more
Erotic Intelligence
Reconciling Sensuality and DomesticityMany therapists fail to recognize that sexual desire doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. By counseling political correctness in the bedroom... Read more
The New Consciousness
Bridging science and spiritualityA book review of Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them? A Scientific Collaboration with the Dalai Lama Read more
Oversimplifying Schizophrenia
Hawks and Doves Battle over the Most Effective TreatmentA book review of Mad in America by Robert Whitaker Read more
Why Is This Man Smiling?
A Self-Described Grouch is Trying to Turn Happiness into a ScienceSelf-Described grouch Martin Seligman, the father of the positive psychology movement, is trying to turn happiness into a science. Read more
Book reviews of The Soul of Recovery; Trauma Practice in the Wake of September 11, 2001; and Love at Goon Park Read more
Bad Couples Therapy
Getting Past the Myth of Therapist NeutralityHere are the mistakes both beginning and experienced couples therapists commit, and how you can avoid them. Read more
The Awful Truth
Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be IntimateAfter the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more
In Search of a Balance
Informing our children of both the beautiesmdashand dangersmdashof sexA book review of Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex by Judith Levine Read more
The Untold Story: An Interview with Carol Gilligan
Carol Gilligan on recapturing the lost voice of pleasureIn her new book, The Birth of Pleasure, Carol Gilligan has tried to probe the root of what makes intimate partnership between men and women so difficult. What... Read more