Case Study
It's Still Unfair!
Struggling to Establish Equitable RelationshipsHealthy, equal relationships require compromise, negotiation, and generosity. But when couples don’t have models for mastering these skills, they often... Read more
Attachment Grief
Living with the Loss of a ChildFor someone who has survived the death of their child, describing grief as a journey perpetuates the myth that, eventually, there’s an end point. Read more
When Actions Speak Louder than Words
Creating Change Through Therapeutic RitualsWhen our attempts to use logic and reason fail, therapeutic rituals can help clients connect to inner resources for healing. Read more
“Be Yourself—But Don’t”
Mixed Messages from a Mother to Her Gay SonWhat happens when loving mothers of gay sons unknowingly send them mixed messages about being themselves? Read more
Fifty Years of Wisdom
Lessons from a Retired TherapistI practiced for almost 50 years, and just retired with a feeling of satisfaction. Here’s what I’ve learned in my journey to contentment. These are my tales... Read more
My Biggest Challenge as a Therapist
The Hardest Things About PracticeTherapy is hard work. But what are therapy’s biggest challenges, and how do therapists overcome them? Here, five therapists share the clinical challenge that... Read more
Bursting the Bubble of Individual Therapy
The Need to See Your Clients in a Relational ContextAs the years pass, is it possible that the more we work with long-term clients, the more we might overlook bigger issues that aren’t being addressed? Read more
Is Meditation as Safe as We Think?
The Risks We Don’t Talk AboutMeditation is generally considered one of the safest practices for our clients. But one organization says that’s not always the case. Read more
“You Have Borderline Personality Disorder”
Sharing a Difficult Diagnosis with a ClientTherapists need to consider not only what diagnosis to give, but also the pain or hardship that can result from sharing it with a client. Read more
Doing Our Own Work Differently
An EMDR Portal to Our Clients’ HealingHow stepping outside our comfort zone when doing our own work can change therapy for our clients. Read more
"I'm Not That Guy"
Navigating the New Couples ConversationDiscovering how ghosts and global issues have permeated relationship bonds in new ways. Read more
Editor's Note: July/August 2021
The Necessity of IllusionsWhat functions do illusions serve for our clients? Some may be harmful, but there might be occasions when the benefits of self-deception justify the costs. Read more
Evoking the Inner Artist: May/June 2021
How to Replace Discomfort with CreativityVulnerability, doubt, fear, and uncertainty—feelings most people try to avoid—are essential to cultivating creativity. Read more
Editor's Note: March/April 2021
Celebrating Rich SimonRich Simon's enduring impact on our field are what we’re celebrating in this issue—and there’s so much to celebrate it could easily fill a bookcase of... Read more
IFS and Chronic Pain
Listening to Inner Parts that Hold the HurtIf most chronic pain is maintained by complex mind–body interactions, how can therapists help treat it? Read more
Gender-Affirmative Therapy
Helping Transgender Clients Begin Their JourneyThe key elements of gender-affirmative therapy for clients who are medically or socially transitioning. Read more
A New Family Narrative
Transforming Intergenerational TraumaThe key to working with a family may be getting parents to see the intergenerational trauma underlying present-day issues. Read more
Last-Chance Therapy in a Tumultuous Time
Discovering Hope in Higher Values with CouplesWorking with couples on the brink of divorce during this pressure-cooker time requires us to help them “reach up” to their highest values. Read more
Helping Black Men Access Mental Health Care
The Free Therapy Movement Breaks New GroundThe movement to offer more free therapy and expand access to treatment gains momentum. Read more
Crossing Cultures
The Surprising Complexity of CountertransferenceA shared cultural understanding can be a powerful asset in therapy, adding a familiarity and depth to the exploration of countertransference. Read more
How to Find the “Can” in “Can’t”
Getting Creative with CBTIt takes creativity to apply basic therapy tools, especially when depression has set in and negative cognitions have taken over. Read more
The Tyranny of Time
How Long Does Effective Therapy Really Take?If someone promised to make you an expert in six months, you’d suspect they were selling snake oil. Meaningful personal development takes time and effort... Read more
Breaking the Silence
Facilitated Communication with Nonverbal AutismA controversial method makes talk therapy possible for people who don’t talk. Read more
The Therapist as Traffic Cop
Learning the Hard Way with a Volatile CoupleBeing a good traffic cop can mean the difference between success or failure as a couples therapist.* Commentary by Peter Fraenkel Read more
Bowing Out
The Dilemma of UncouplingIf a loving couple shares a relationship history with no major deal-breaker issues, is “uncoupling” the best path? Read more
The Problem with the Borderline Diagnosis
Getting Beyond the LabelHave we unfairly pathologized clients diagnosed with borderline personality disorder? Read more
The Biotech Dragon
A Kid-Friendly Approach to Self-RegulationEngaging kids in talk therapy is often a frustrating struggle. So what happens when you introduce a video game and some cool bioresponsive tech? Read more
In the Aftermath of Suicide
The Long Journey to HealingIn the wake of a loved one’s suicide, therapists must have the patience to sit with clients as the slow and painful process of healing unfolds. CASE... Read more
Storm Damage
Angry Words Can Sink a RelationshipEven though partners may forgive each other after a heated argument, the hurtful words that were hurled can be haunting nonetheless. Read more
Weiwei and the Spider
Translating Problems into Skills to LearnAn approach that emphasizes acquiring skills rather than focusing on problems helps a young boy in China tackle his problems at school. Read more