Clinical Skills & Experience

Confessions of a Former People Pleaser

The Radical Act of Rethinking Your Boundaries

I used to view boundaries as a fancy way of dressing up rejection, incompetence, and selfishness. But after a decade of working as a couples counselor, I've... Read more

Craving Device-Free Attention

Technoconflicts in Families Today

Therapists are used to adolescent girls grumbling about their hovering, overinvolved parents. But these days, many have a new complaint—technoference in the... Read more

VIDEO: David Burns on Overcoming Resistance

Exploring Why Clients Might Not Want to Change

Do you have a client who you can't seem to help, no matter what techniques you try? In this brief video, master clinician David Burns—one of the developers... Read more

Working with Difficult Men

Where’s the Leverage for Change?

The conflict between an older, more traditional view of masculinity and a newer, more progressive one is the underlying issue in many marriages today. Helping... Read more

Therapists in a Fishbowl

The Challenges of Small-Town Practice

Some down-to-earth advice on practicing in a small town, where there’s no way to escape being seen and talked about. Read more

Mondays With My Girls

Lessons in Being Real

A group of preteen girls in a long-term shelter teach a budding therapist some unexpected lessons about the true meaning of resilience and the power of... Read more

Psychotherapy Networker

Diedre was widowed about three years ago, but was excited to tell her therapist about a man she's started dating. She's very happy. As her therapist heard... Read more

When Therapy Changes the Therapist

Five Tales of Self-Discovery

Although it’s not usually acknowledged, change in the consulting room goes both ways. Even as they help clients wrestle with their issues, it’s the rare... Read more

Piercing the Illusion of Intimacy

From Symposium Storytelling Evening 2019

“Whoops,” I said, thinking this was a lighthearted moment. “Looks like you should’ve gone with that other psychologist.” But Ted didn’t joke back. Read more

Learning to Draw the Line

From Symposium Storytelling Evening 2019

"In one session, she said that her life outside of therapy was going great, and seeing me was her main problem." Read more

What Greg Taught Me

From Symposium Storytelling Evening 2019

"Even though I’d been out as a gay man for decades, I still felt disgust at my erotic interests. Although several therapists over the years had told me I... Read more

The Politics of Mental Health

The Story of the PTSD Diagnosis

Pioneering trauma specialist Bessel van der Kolk took aim not only at the politics within the therapy field that determine what diagnoses get into the DSM, but... Read more

Even as ketamine’s popularity continues to rise for depression treatment, it’s still fighting an uphill battle for clinical acceptance. Read more

Truths and Consequences

Helping Teens Make Good Decisions

When it comes to high-risk behaviors, therapists can find themselves caught between boundary-testing teens and their concerned parents. Read more

A Therapist Switches Chairs

From Clinician to Client to Author

In her latest bestselling book, Lori Gottlieb offers an unusually intimate look at her experience as both a therapist and a client. Read more

An Apple Seed and Trained Monkeys

Growing Up Under the Influence of My Big Sister's Imagination

Whether as playmate, protector, or tormentor, a big sister looms large in the imagination of her younger sibling. Read more

VIDEO: Therapists Getting Real and Going Public

The Power of Transparency in the New Marketing Landscape

How can therapists reduce stigma around getting mental health treatment? When it comes to marketing your practice, how much personal information should you be... Read more

VIDEO: Using the Arts in Trauma Treatment

Expressive Art Therapist Cathy Malchiodi Weighs In

Psychotherapy Networker’s Lauren Dockett speaks with influential art and expressive art therapist Cathy Malchiodi about the broadening of her her field, how... Read more

VIDEO: When Our Clients Help Us Overcome Our Greatest Fears

A Therapist Shares Her Most Memorable Clinical Experience

Lynn Lyons shares a moving, often hilarious, story about how her young client helped her become a stronger person and a better therapist. Read more

My Clients Are Asking Personal Questions

Five Clinicians Give Their Take
Psychotherapy Networker

A therapist works from his home office, which means clients sometimes observe elements of his personal life. He's had clients ask about his electric car... Read more

Character Work

What Therapists Can Learn from Actors

Therapists can flop in their “performance” with clients, coming off as inauthentic or over the top. One former actor discovers how to embody the kind of... Read more

Therapists spend much of the day sitting in a chair. But most don’t consider how the way they sit affects the therapy experience for both them and their... Read more

Kindling the Spark

The Healing Power of Expressive Arts

Aliveness is not an experience we think or talk ourselves into; it’s a state of being we feel in our bodies. An expressive arts therapist shows how... Read more

Welcome to Holland

When Life Takes a Detour

What do you do when your life’s expectations get turned upside down? Read more

Disarming the Verbal Bully

Four Ways to Push Pause

At a time when verbal bullies seem to feel increasingly empowered, here are four offbeat ways to push pause on their toxic verbiage. Read more

Storm Damage

Angry Words Can Sink a Relationship

Even though partners may forgive each other after a heated argument, the hurtful words that were hurled can be haunting nonetheless. Read more

For many years after, body therapy remained a semi-underground movement within the field. Now increasing numbers of clinicians are utilizing highly... Read more

Trauma Therapy Meets Theater

An Unusual Program is Helping Vets Rewire from War

Therapists know that words can heal. But what if the words were in iambic pentameter and delivered from a stage? Veteran and professional actor Stephan Wolfert... Read more

Five Strategies for When Therapy is Stuck

Bypassing the Limits of Feelings, Judgments, and Language

When therapy goes wrong, it’s typically because we’ve entered our clients’ trance, joining them in their myopic misery. Therapy typically hangs on your... Read more

Mark and his wife, Nicole, have been in couples therapy for almost six months. But Mark recently requested an individual session, where he revealed he recently... Read more