Clinical Skills & Experience

Becoming a Therapist for Each Other

How to Deepen Couples Therapy

How to address one partner’s long-term issues in couples therapy without derailing work on the current relationship. Read more

The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser

Setting Boundaries Can Be Risky

Helping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong Read more

The Labels We Use

When It Comes to Addiction, Sometimes a Diagnosis is a Client's Best Motivator

The labels we use to describe clients’ behaviors have important therapeutic implications. Sometimes using the word addiction and explaining its neurological... Read more

Changing Our Contract with Life

A Therapist's Story of Battling Chronic Pain

This is the story of one of the most turbulent storms in my personal and professional life. After the storm, I learned there’s something about healing from... Read more

VIDEO: The Hearing

A Therapist Shares Her Most Transformative Session

In our own small way, the Networker has tried to revive the ancient, tribal practice of storytelling. At our third annual Symposium storytelling event, Kirsten... Read more

In the wake of the #MeToo movement, men are reevaluating the way they approach courtship, relationships, gender roles, and love. Their therapists must switch... Read more

Taking on the largely unnamed complexities of the #MeToo movement for men, this issue explores how therapists can help men respond to women’s experiences in... Read more

Silent and Confused

Opening Conversations with Men in the Wake of #MeToo

Most men publicly support #MeToo, but privately—very privately, often too privately even to share with their intimate partners—some are disoriented and... Read more

What Really Heals and Awakens - Symposium

Highlights from Symposium 2018

Weaving together Buddhist philosophy and storytelling, clinical psychologist and spiritual teacher Jack Kornfield explored the nature of therapeutic... Read more

The Challenge of the Healing Apology

Highlights from Symposium 2018

At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet... Read more

Our Myths about Sexuality

Highlights from Symposium 2018

Esther Perel called on the Symposium audience to challenge the various myths, especially those about male sexuality, that get in the way of deeper relational... Read more

The New Science of Couples Therapy

Highlights from Symposium 2018

In their featured address, the Gottmans explored what research has revealed about the crucial role the brain’s seven different command systems can play in... Read more

My First Client, My Best Teacher

From an Evening of Storytelling 2018

A challenging client, who won't speak or swallow, teaches a therapist just starting out how to find her own voice. Read more

Jimmy

From an Evening of Storytelling 2018

What happens to a buttoned-up young therapist when things get out of hand in his office? Read more

Picture This!

Enhancing Emotional Healing with Visual Images

Enhancing emotional healing with visual images in your work. Read more

Taken Over

Breaking the Spell of Obsession

A therapist struggles to help an obsessive client with whom she develops an unusual preoccupation. Read more

The Rescue

Finding the Courage to Let Go

A whirlwind romance turns into a troubled relationship. Read more

Six Ways to Find Comedy in Even the Darkest Moments

Shaking Your Clients Loose from Their Tragic Stances

Therapy, in order to shake people loose from their tragic stances and bounce them into the human comedy, is at its best when it is funny, when the tragic... Read more

Priming Clients for Taking New Practices Home

Four Keys to Enhancing Engagement

Four steps to help clients take new practices learned in the consulting room back into their everyday lives. Read more

Art and Trauma

Accessing Creative Paths to Healing

A leader in expressive arts therapy explains why it’s increasingly being used to help combat vets find relief from trauma. Read more

The Power of Apologizing

What It Takes to Really Be Sorry

Unlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to... Read more

A push to make mindfulness practices more racially sensitive. Read more

How to Get Clients to Do Their Homework

Step 1: Don't Call It "Homework"

The best way to ensure clients' cooperation is to make the assignments relevant for them. Task assignments are designed to bring about changes in the... Read more

Breaking Through Therapeutic Gridlock

How to Respond When Clients Resist Your Advice

As therapists, we need to be open to feedback, even criticism, as a means of deepening the therapeutic relationship. Establishing trust by moving beyond the... Read more

Therapy and Transformation

What Are We Promising Our Clients?

Decades ago, trainees in our field were imbued with the notion that therapy was about transformation: big, dramatic changes in the direction of... Read more

Who's Steering the Boat?

Navigating Therapy with Today's Clients

Today’s clients are shifting out of their customary position of mannerly deference and asserting far more specifically what they want—and don’t... Read more

Tuning into Attunement

How to Harness Your Social Engagement System

We all know people who have the magic touch when it comes to relating to others. They can instantly connect with strangers and put people at ease without even... Read more

Keeping Couples Therapy Upbeat

How to Bring a Positive Spirit Into the Consulting Room

Keeping the difficult work of couples therapy positive and upbeat might be easier, and more effective, than you think. Read more

From Weight to Well-Being

The Challenges of Treating Binge Eating Disorder

Although binge eating disorder is more prevalent than anorexia and bulimia, many people still don’t get the help they need for it. Read more

The Silver Lining in Failure

Not Every Teachable Moment Has to Be a Successful One

The problem with a failure is that one doesn't really understand why one failed. If one did, it wouldn't have been a failure. But I'm not giving up on my... Read more