Clinical Skills & Experience
Becoming a Therapist for Each Other
How to Deepen Couples TherapyHow to address one partner’s long-term issues in couples therapy without derailing work on the current relationship. Read more
The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser
Setting Boundaries Can Be RiskyHelping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong Read more
The Labels We Use
When It Comes to Addiction, Sometimes a Diagnosis is a Client's Best MotivatorThe labels we use to describe clients’ behaviors have important therapeutic implications. Sometimes using the word addiction and explaining its neurological... Read more
Changing Our Contract with Life
A Therapist's Story of Battling Chronic PainThis is the story of one of the most turbulent storms in my personal and professional life. After the storm, I learned there’s something about healing from... Read more
VIDEO: The Hearing
A Therapist Shares Her Most Transformative SessionIn our own small way, the Networker has tried to revive the ancient, tribal practice of storytelling. At our third annual Symposium storytelling event, Kirsten... Read more
VIDEO: Valeria Chuba on Male Sexuality in the Age of #MeToo
Is Male Sexuality Inherently Violent?In the wake of the #MeToo movement, men are reevaluating the way they approach courtship, relationships, gender roles, and love. Their therapists must switch... Read more
Taking on the largely unnamed complexities of the #MeToo movement for men, this issue explores how therapists can help men respond to women’s experiences in... Read more
Silent and Confused
Opening Conversations with Men in the Wake of #MeTooMost men publicly support #MeToo, but privately—very privately, often too privately even to share with their intimate partners—some are disoriented and... Read more
What Really Heals and Awakens - Symposium
Highlights from Symposium 2018Weaving together Buddhist philosophy and storytelling, clinical psychologist and spiritual teacher Jack Kornfield explored the nature of therapeutic... Read more
The Challenge of the Healing Apology
Highlights from Symposium 2018At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet... Read more
Our Myths about Sexuality
Highlights from Symposium 2018Esther Perel called on the Symposium audience to challenge the various myths, especially those about male sexuality, that get in the way of deeper relational... Read more
The New Science of Couples Therapy
Highlights from Symposium 2018In their featured address, the Gottmans explored what research has revealed about the crucial role the brain’s seven different command systems can play in... Read more
My First Client, My Best Teacher
From an Evening of Storytelling 2018A challenging client, who won't speak or swallow, teaches a therapist just starting out how to find her own voice. Read more
Picture This!
Enhancing Emotional Healing with Visual ImagesEnhancing emotional healing with visual images in your work. Read more
Taken Over
Breaking the Spell of ObsessionA therapist struggles to help an obsessive client with whom she develops an unusual preoccupation. Read more
The Rescue
Finding the Courage to Let GoA whirlwind romance turns into a troubled relationship. Read more
Six Ways to Find Comedy in Even the Darkest Moments
Shaking Your Clients Loose from Their Tragic StancesTherapy, in order to shake people loose from their tragic stances and bounce them into the human comedy, is at its best when it is funny, when the tragic... Read more
Priming Clients for Taking New Practices Home
Four Keys to Enhancing EngagementFour steps to help clients take new practices learned in the consulting room back into their everyday lives. Read more
Art and Trauma
Accessing Creative Paths to HealingA leader in expressive arts therapy explains why it’s increasingly being used to help combat vets find relief from trauma. Read more
The Power of Apologizing
What It Takes to Really Be SorryUnlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to... Read more
A push to make mindfulness practices more racially sensitive. Read more
How to Get Clients to Do Their Homework
Step 1: Don't Call It "Homework"The best way to ensure clients' cooperation is to make the assignments relevant for them. Task assignments are designed to bring about changes in the... Read more
Breaking Through Therapeutic Gridlock
How to Respond When Clients Resist Your AdviceAs therapists, we need to be open to feedback, even criticism, as a means of deepening the therapeutic relationship. Establishing trust by moving beyond the... Read more
Therapy and Transformation
What Are We Promising Our Clients?Decades ago, trainees in our field were imbued with the notion that therapy was about transformation: big, dramatic changes in the direction of... Read more
Who's Steering the Boat?
Navigating Therapy with Today's ClientsToday’s clients are shifting out of their customary position of mannerly deference and asserting far more specifically what they want—and don’t... Read more
Tuning into Attunement
How to Harness Your Social Engagement SystemWe all know people who have the magic touch when it comes to relating to others. They can instantly connect with strangers and put people at ease without even... Read more
Keeping Couples Therapy Upbeat
How to Bring a Positive Spirit Into the Consulting RoomKeeping the difficult work of couples therapy positive and upbeat might be easier, and more effective, than you think. Read more
From Weight to Well-Being
The Challenges of Treating Binge Eating DisorderAlthough binge eating disorder is more prevalent than anorexia and bulimia, many people still don’t get the help they need for it. Read more
The Silver Lining in Failure
Not Every Teachable Moment Has to Be a Successful OneThe problem with a failure is that one doesn't really understand why one failed. If one did, it wouldn't have been a failure. But I'm not giving up on my... Read more