Clinical Skills & Experience
Phone Sex and the Rabbi
Discovering the Normal in the DeviantA therapist works with a rabbi struggling with his mental health and developing false relationships with phone sex operators. Read more
Converting Calls into Clients
How to make the most of first contactHow to move from the first phone call to booking an appointment Read more
Undercurrents
When Therapy StallsWhen therapy stalls, it's usually time to investigate the undercurrents that nobody wants to talk about. Read more
The Larger Self
Discovering the Core Within Our MultiplicityThe practice of therapy, for both therapist and client, is transformed when we connect with our fundamental core, a process that involves learning to listen... Read more
Addictions Treatment: Myth vs Reality
Effective Interventions Often Don't Match StereotypesTwo recent landmark overviews of research separate myth from reality in the treatment of substance abuse. Read more
Encountering the Shadow
Face to Face with the Seduction of ViolenceWhen your day-to-day life keeps immersing you in the most burtal side of the human experience, you must learn what it means to resist. Read more
Breaking the Spell
A Good Boy Learns to Become a ManA man who grew up rescuing the women around him learns that there's no saving someone from sorrow. Sometimes the best we can do—all we can do—is offer a... Read more
Acts of Compulsion
Unmasking the Allure of the IllicitIf therapy is in some sense a confrontation in which you must come face-to-face with your disowned self, it's a real advantage to choose a therapist who's your... Read more
The Beethoven Factor
The People Who Thrive in the Face of Extreme Adversity May Surprise YouThrivers are not Pollyannas. They are not blindly optimistic and are far from showing the often irritating feigned cheerfulness that can result from trying to... Read more
4 Types of Reconciliation
Coming Together after Falling ApartEveryone's reconciliation story is different, but everyone can reconcile in one of four ways. Read more
Bad Couples Therapy
Getting Past the Myth of Therapist NeutralityHere are the mistakes both beginning and experienced couples therapists commit, and how you can avoid them. Read more
The Awful Truth
Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be IntimateAfter the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more
The Slippery Slope
Violating the Ultimate Therapeutic Taboo"I doubt that I would fit many people's image of a therapist who would violate sexual boundaries with a client. Before it happened, I certainly did not fit my... Read more
What Textbooks Don't Tell You
Acknowledging the complexities of real-life therapyAcknowledging the complexities of real-life therapy Read more
The Dog Ate It
When clients don't do their homeworkHow to get clients to do their homework assignments Read more
Manners Matter
Respecting the etiquette of effective psychotherapyFrom the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?! You... Read more
Families facing a disabling illness often take refuge in a collective folie. Read more
The Shadow of Evil
How Do You Speak about the Unspeakable?In the "talking cure" of therapy, silence is usually associated with resistance, denial and shame. But silence may also be a recognition that ordinary language... Read more
Emerging from the Shadows
Looking Beyond the Borderline DiagnosisIn the minds of many therapists, the borderline diagnosis has come to be a code word for trouble. To get past our sense of helplessness with these clients, we... Read more
The Age of Interruption
On Hold in a Call-Waiting WorldAs today's hyperkinetic families struggle to create the semblance of a shared life out of the frantic and conflicting schedules of their members, the... Read more
Millions of learning-disabled adults rely on intellectual guerrilla tactics to survive. Read more
Confronting Homophobia in the Therapy Room
Are We Still in the Dark?From the Networker archives, a therapist discusses homophobia within clinical practice. Read more