Family

The Unassignables

What Really Gets Handed Down in a Family?

A son’s decision to get married is a rite of passage for the entire family. Read more

OCD and Children

It’s a Family Affair

OCD in children can operate like a kind of cult leader, demanding acceptance of an extreme view of a perilous reality and offering solutions that can’t be... Read more

Kendall’s Prom

A Special Daughter’s Special Night

An young woman with autism celebrates a very special night. Read more

VIDEO: Making the Case for the Emotional Man

Pat Love Explains Why We Need to Rethink the "Empathy Gap"

Have you ever wondered if some men in your practice are simply unable to listen, connect, and empathize with their partners? According to Pat Love, it’s more... Read more

Rewriting the 'Difficult Mother' Story

A Son Embraces a New Narrative

Sorting through his mother’s personal files in the wake of her dementia, a son discovers more than he expected. Read more

Addressing Race Therapeutically in Black Relationships

Testimonials from the 2015 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium

Today I attended a workshop called “Working with Black Couples: Overcoming Myths and Stereotypes,” led by Dr. Christiana Awosan. Being an African American... Read more

Mindfulness, Conscious Breathing Exercises, and Cyber Intimacy

Testimonials from the 2015 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium

Although I have read his books and seen many videos of him in action, today's Networker Symposium workshop was the first in-person opportunity I've had to hear... Read more

Larger than Life

Marianne Walters Was Family Therapy's Foremost Feminist

Marianne Walters didn't invent a brilliant new therapeutic paradigm, publish a large and magisterial body of research, or establish her own unique school of... Read more

Stronger Medicine

Anti-Depressants Haven't Made Therapy Obsolete

Americans have a history of valuing quick-fix solutions to difficult problems. But the simplistic psychopharmacological approach to depressive disorders... Read more

Letting Go of Our Facade

To Tell the Truth

Therapists aren't supposed to discuss personal problems, or even acknowledge having any. While preaching congruence, who among us has never pretended fondness... Read more

A Little Wiggle Room

It's Never too Late to Change Your Story

It’s never too late to change your story Read more

Get Out of My Life!

Working with Cut-off Family Members in the Consulting Room

Helping families heal cutoffs is painstakingly delicate work, with a high risk for stumbling over buried land mines. Read more

Rocking On!

From grief to rebirth

A daughter marvels as her mother goes from grief to an exuberant rebirth. Read more

Passionate Marriage

Helping Couples Decode the Language of Their Sexuality

How couples behave in bed is a remarkablv authentic expression of their emotional connection-or lack of it. Read more

Questions of Gender

A therapist struggles with the clinical choices he’s made

A therapist takes an unflinching look at a puzzling case that spanned 14 years, wondering if he made a wrong turn. Read more

VIDEO: Bringing the Family Into Trauma Treatment

Mary Jo Barrett on Family Consultations

In this brief video clip, Mary Jo explains why bringing the family into therapy should be our first stop when treating trauma. Read more

VIDEO: Somatic Tools for Self-Soothing

Peter Levine Describes How Somatic Experiencing Helps Clients Self-Regulate

In this brief video clip, Peter demonstrates a body awareness technique that includes loud, vibrating deep breaths to help clients minimize anxiety and... Read more

VIDEO: Helping Traumatized Clients Understand their Automatic Responses

Richard Schwartz Explains Why Panicked Trauma Responses are Also Defensive Ones

In this brief video clip, Richard explains how trauma survivors can have a dialogue with the damaged inner parts—the “Exiles”—by first consulting their... Read more

VIDEO: Stop Shooting the Messenger

The Case for Hearing Anxiety Out

As far as universal human experiences go, anxiety is usually seen as a heinous beast. Clients hate it and therapists offer ways to get rid of it—but not many... Read more

VIDEO: Getting Anxious Families to Loosen Up

A Homework Assignment for Anxious Kids

Anxiety is a demanding beast, with a long list of conditions that must be met to keep it at bay. It forces anxious children and their families to banish... Read more

VIDEO: Stopping the Anxiety-Go-Round

Lynn Lyons On Helping Anxious Kids

Fifteen-year-old Grace doesn’t know it yet, but her troubling anxiety symptoms are run of the mill. Like most anxious kids, it’s not the content of her... Read more

VIDEO: Working With The Borderline Client

Dick Schwartz Demonstrates How to Minimize Reactivity

When a deeply troubled client begins a first session by shifting erratically through different mood states and periodically going numb, many therapists... Read more

Louder than Words

The Unspoken Code of Fathers and Sons

A Bruce Springsteen song helps crack the unspoken code of father–son communication. Read more

VIDEO: Social Conditioning, Or Are We Just Born That Way?

The Neuroscience Behind Primary Gender Traits

Louann Brizendine talks about one of the key neurobiological distinctions between the sexes: the need to reproduce vs. the need to nurture the helpless. Read more

Becoming a Part of the Child Client’s Story

Dan Hughes on the Effectiveness of Psychological Hand-Holding

Daniel Hughes has many techniques to suggest when working with troubled children who have put up a wall. Read more

What the Cactus Knew

The Reward of Not Getting What You Want

A much-anticipated vacation demonstrates the rewards of not getting what you want. Read more

Testing the Bond

What's family without shared identity?

In an encyclopedic new book, Andrew Solomon explores how parents and children forge emotional bonds with one another in the presence of sometimes vast inborn... Read more

Dilemmas of the “Haveitall” Mom

A Young Mother Struggles with a New Identity

A young woman confronts the myths and dilemmas of motherhood. Read more

Recovering Together

An Ailing Mother Comes to the Aid of Her Son

An ailing mother and son help each other find their way back to health. Read more

A Bond Like None Other

Sometimes proximity isn’t the same as closeness

Exploring the complex fabric of an often poorly understood family bond that shapes us, in one way or another, throughout our lives. Read more