Men

Male Abuse Survivors

Bringing a Fuller Picture of Suffering to Light

Why aren't we doing more to support male survivors of intimate partner violence? Read more

Navigating the Male Friendship Recession

A Conversation with Mark Greene

Watch this interview with Mark Greene about why male friendships seem so difficult for men to get and how therapists can help. Read more

In Search of The Great Male Friend

One Man’s Quest for Intimacy

Grown men don’t say things like “I’ve got nobody to play with.” Or do they? A journalist explores what therapists are seeing across the country: the... Read more

Terry Real on Achieving Breakthrough Results with Difficult Men

Transforming Behaviors by Facing Narcissists, Bullies, and Avoidants Head On

Learn how to work with narcissists, bullies, avoidants and other difficult male clients with leading expert Terry Real. Read more

Unhappy Campers

When a Guys’ Weekend Goes South

A nightmare camping trip exposes the limits—and possibilities—of male bonding. Read more

“Be Yourself—But Don’t”

Mixed Messages from a Mother to Her Gay Son

What happens when loving mothers of gay sons unknowingly send them mixed messages about being themselves? Read more

Working with Difficult Men

Where’s the Leverage for Change?

The conflict between an older, more traditional view of masculinity and a newer, more progressive one is the underlying issue in many marriages today. Helping... Read more

When Straight Men Have Sex with Men

Understanding the Difference Between Sexual Identity, Preference, and Fantasy

When a male client in a heterosexual relationship confesses that he has sex with men, the therapist must understand he's not necessarily closeted. Read more

Life Without Father

A Son Looks for Answers from a Stoic Parent Back from War

Even though I knew I wanted to be a father when I grew up, I didn’t know exactly what skills were required. We of the ’40s and ’50s grew up with fathers... Read more

VIDEO: Esther Perel on How to Talk with Men About Intimacy

Framing Intimacy as a Regular Part of Life

It's not always easy to get men to talk about intimacy and sex. But according to renowned sex therapist and author Esther Perel, there's a way to weave... Read more

Esther Perel on the Paradox of Masculinity

What Does It Mean to Be a “Real” Man Today?

Feminism has given women a new narrative, but it hasn’t offered men a particularly new one that they can identify with. Ultimately, the lives of women will... Read more

In the wake of the #MeToo movement, men are reevaluating the way they approach courtship, relationships, gender roles, and love. Their therapists must switch... Read more

When Therapy Takes a Personal Toll

A Therapist Working with Abusers Reaches a Crossroads
Michelle Cacho-Negrette

I made my first appointment with Gloria one autumn afternoon. I needed a still point, a peaceful promontory in the ocean of loud, unrepentant excuses I heard... Read more

VIDEO: Making the Case for the Emotional Man

Pat Love Explains Why We Need to Rethink the "Empathy Gap"

Have you ever wondered if some men in your practice are simply unable to listen, connect, and empathize with their partners? According to Pat Love, it’s more... Read more

Defusing Male Shame

Understanding the Significance to Male Clients

Shame is an emotion that isn’t healthy. Unlike guilt–which causes remorse for something you did wrong–shame can cause someone to feel as... Read more

VIDEO: Men and Intimacy

A Relational Approach to Helping Male Clients

According to Patrick Dougherty, the biggest problem men have in psychotherapy isn’t that intimacy and the language of emotion is such foreign territory, but... Read more

Mad as Hell

The End of the Era of Male Entitlement

The era of unchallenged male entitlement has come to an end, and many men are mad as hell. A new book provides context to help us deal with this anger in the... Read more

Motivating the Resistant Male Client

Terry Real On Why Leverage Is Key With Men

You’ve probably worked with men who’ve been dragged, kicking and screaming, into therapy by their partners. But how do you work with a client who doesn’t... Read more

Psychologist Philip Zimbardo knows a thing or two about tough guys. In 1971, his notorious Stanford prison experiment, originally planned for two weeks, had to... Read more

For men who still consider entering couples therapy a stroll into a lion’s den of shame, humiliation and failure, a men’s groups can be both a crucial... Read more

Between Gay and Straight

Honoring a Client's Multiple Identities
Jeff Levy & Jean Malpas

A middle-aged man facing the challenge of coming out explores the uncharted territory of a "mixed-orientation marriage" Read more

Shame-O-Phobia

Why Men Fear Therapy

Shame is the least understood dimension of men's inner experience—by both men themselves and the people who live with them. This lack of understanding may be... Read more

Lions Without a Cause

Men's Animal Instincts Don't Fit the Modern World

Let's face it: love means something quite different to men and women. A look at other species of social mammals offers some remarkable insights into the... Read more

Women Treating Men

Therapy across the Gender Divide

Gender shapes relationship from the very first moment therapist meets client, especially when the client is male and the therapist is female. Read more

Going, Going, Gone

A young boy finds his Charon for the final journey
Anna Belle Kaufman

An ill child finds his place among a group of other boys in aging men's bodies. Read more

Gay Guise

When Straight Men Sleep with Men

A case study examines the differences between sexual orientation and behavior and what really happens when straight men sleep with men. Read more

Sexual Heroin

Variant Arousal Patterns are an Obstacle to Intimacy

An erotic fetish disrupts a man's sexual history as well as his current relationship Read more

The Awful Truth

Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be Intimate

After the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more

I Gave at the Office

Men and the Romance of Work

What draws so many men to define their manhood through work success, and how can therapists help men--and the women in their lives--understand what they get... Read more

Following the Money

Why fewer and fewer men are becoming therapists.
Ilene Philipson

If the male perspective is lost entirely from our profession, the culture will once again see emotional work as women's work, and I think we all will lose Read more